Avoid Eating & Interviewing

Job-Hunt.org just published a fabulous, practical guide on optimizing a breakfast, lunch, or dinner job interview.

The article made me think about the biggest mistake you can make at a meal-based job interview. I realized, “Simple answer, it’s scheduling that type of interview at all!”

The Fundamental Problem with Eating & Interviewing

There’s a fundamental problem with eating during an interview. You go to an interview to talk, to share information about yourself. That’s so much easier to do when your mouth is empty.

I used to schedule breakfast and lunch interviews with candidates. I stopped because I noticed:

  1. They didn’t get to finish their meals.
  2. I didn’t get all of the information I needed from them.

How to Avoid Eating & Interviewing

When you get a meal-based interview invitation, be upfront about your concern:

Say, “It’s hard for me to talk with my mouth full. Can we schedule an alternate time? If not, will you be comfortable if I just order coffee and a snack so I can answer your questions?”

This lets you either completely avoid the meal-based interview, or sets you up to feel comfortable ordering lightly.

Do you want to look like Betsy Salkind in this slightly NSFW video:

When is Eating & Interviewing OK?

You can feel good about sharing a meal with a potential colleague(s) when you’re into the “let’s get to know each better” stage of the selection process.

At that point, because the conversation will be less formal, say, “Yes!” and follow the good advice from on Job-Hunt.org.

I write executive resumes and LinkedIn profiles. Save time. Get hired. Email me at donnasvei@gmail.com for more information.

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Updated June 2017

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  1. Great ‘food for thought’ Donna!

    I must say though, I recently completed a dinner job interview with the CEO and his wife. Following our initial interviews it became apparent that he was eager to have my wife join us for dinner as part of the interview process. In between bites we had a very productive and enjoyable meeting. The CEO shared with me after the fact that in his opinion, a wife or significant other ‘speaks volumes’ about a candidate. Btw – I got the job!

    In my first job interview out of school at a major PR firm, the CEO took me out to lunch and insisted I have the French onion soup as an appetizer. This concoction had very stringy melted cheese atop the broth–very difficult to handle. Again, this CEO shared with me after the fact that he likes to see how candidates ‘handle’ the stringy cheese in a formal situation. Cruel, eh?

    Over my 25 year career … I haven’t had too many of these meal-based interviews. I suppose my advice would be if you must … order something that is easy to navigate … like soup without melted cheese on top!

  2. I’ve done my share of meal interviews over the years, about 100x as many as the interviewer, only a couple of times personally. I once had a candidate spit food projectiles from his mouth as he was speaking and one landed on my forehead. He took his napkin, dunked it in his water, and leaned across the table to wipe it off. Um, interview over.

    Like Stephen, I also had a “French Onion Soup” meal interview, this one was with me on the interviewee side (and also as an entry level college grad). It almost ended in disaster due to the difficulty I had with the soup, but I simply stopped, lifted a long stringy spoonful in the air and said: “Gentlemen (yes, the three guys at the table were all guys), I promise you that I will never, ever again order French onion soup for as long as I work for this firm. One of my greatest assets is that when I make a mistake, I recognize it, change, and never make that mistake again!” We all broke into laughter. That broke the tension and made everyone feel comfortable again.

    As an interviewer, I really liked the meal (typically lunch) interview. It gave me a lot more information than a typical interview. And yes, my questions were about 30 seconds and the answers were typically about 10x that length. So my advice is to order light. Order soup. Just not the French Onion kind…

  3. Haha Stephen. Now it would be tacos! Yes, you can’t always avoid the meal-based interview. 🙂 Donna

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